tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36817113.post2434113834852355225..comments2023-05-08T04:34:28.557-07:00Comments on Sydney's Blog: More wedding thoughtsSydneyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17360198761136198922noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36817113.post-22407615958957350782007-04-19T22:30:00.000-07:002007-04-19T22:30:00.000-07:00I'm not sure how gramma thinks he's related, but I...I'm not sure how gramma thinks he's related, but I <I>am</I> sure I know what she'd say if I asked: "Well <I>I</I> don't <I>know</I>!" And then she'd shrug her arms along with her shoulders and let them flop back into her lap with her wrists cross and she'd look away for a moment. And then if she thought it was funny, she'd do little mini-flops, purse her lips raise her eyebrows as if to say, "So sue me!"Sydneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17360198761136198922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36817113.post-51576514915610053112007-04-19T11:59:00.000-07:002007-04-19T11:59:00.000-07:00p.s. I forgot to add that you're awesome and we l...p.s. I forgot to add that you're awesome and we love you and thanks for being there for Pete! Let us know if we can help in any way. Love, K.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36817113.post-31997885128895378532007-04-19T11:49:00.000-07:002007-04-19T11:49:00.000-07:00Hey el Syd,This is Kate, and you weren't around wh...Hey el Syd,<BR/>This is Kate, and you weren't around when Lance & I got married, but we actually planned a wedding and then sent out notes cancelling it... yes, it's true. There was the freak out (I didn't want to be princess for a day or whatever in the slightest), the church was being unreasonable (they insisted I had to walk down one side or they other and they wouldn't do a center aisle, wtf?), and so we ended up doing an impromptu (for a wedding, we had a week and a half or so to plan) wedding on the same day, different location. <BR/><BR/>So I'm sure multiple eyebrows were raised at all of that, but no one said anything to me, and kindly didn't even tell us for a couple of years that Lance's grandma almost plunged off the cliff into the waterfall when her wheelchair picked up speed on the trail. And Mum, of course, thoroughly enjoyed the last minute rush :) <BR/><BR/>At the time it was still surreal but doable, which a big wedding was not for me, and now I really like the photos. So believe me whatever you do will not be "ridiculous" or ridiculed by us, at least. <BR/><BR/>By the way, what your Grandma said is a classic, just how does she think Pete is related?? <BR/><BR/>Toodles,<BR/>Love, Kate.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36817113.post-41292892531199463042007-04-18T23:14:00.000-07:002007-04-18T23:14:00.000-07:00And not every ritual in life has to be about every...And not every ritual in life has to be about everyone else. We weren't going to do anything but go to the courthouse originally. The party <I>is</I> the compromise. I'm not saying we'd regret the ceremony if we had one; I'm just saying that we <I>won't</I> regret <I>not</I> having one. Here is my vision of the party: people arrive and find their seats, they get a beer or a glass of wine, maybe some dip... Then there's a voice asking everyone to sit down, welcoming them, thanking them for coming, and explaining why we're all here. Then I say some things, then Pete says some things (probably fewer things - he's a succinct kind of guy!), then maybe someone's parent or sibling says some things, and then we open the floor to toasts and ADS (After Dinner Speaking, for the non-debate nerds in the crowd). And everyone is laughing and happy and enjoying their hors d'oeuvres and free beer. And then there's cake! Hooray, cake! So there will be majesty and beauty and awe, and you can provide the tears if you like.Sydneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17360198761136198922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36817113.post-83296069811491529212007-04-18T22:43:00.000-07:002007-04-18T22:43:00.000-07:00"We don't need no piece of paper from the City Hal..."We don't need no piece of paper from the City Hall keepin' us tied and true." - My Old Man, from Blue by Joni Mitchell. <BR/><BR/>Not every ritual you go through in life in necessarily about you. How does Tina feel about skipping out on the ceremony part? Or Pete's sisters? On a slight tanget, I know some Jewish friends who did the whole Bar Mitzvah thing somewhat against their will when they turned 13 (or just for the money), but now appreciate the fact that they went through it. Not saying this will end up the same way - I'm sure there are plenty of people who later regret going through some big ceremony (especially given the divorce rate in America), but that at least a decent ceremony won't kill you and may be something you look back on with some feelings of... what's the opposite of shame? Pride? No, that's too strong. Less shame? Yeah, less shame. <BR/><BR/>And take it from someone else who's not a big fan of PDA, it can get a little weird being up in front of everyone proclaiming your love. I'm still not sure how I got through it. We have a DVD of our ceremony and reception, and I have watched it exactly once when we first got it. I squirm a little even thinking about what I said. But I heard from many people they enjoyed it. As you say, often the vows & kiss are the parts everyone will remember, so try and make them a little memorable, even if it makes you squemish. <BR/><BR/>Ceremonies are important, I'm not travelling 3000 miles just for some kegger. I want tears of joy on everyone's faces at the beauty and awe and majesty of your wedding!Erichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04307182227850370924noreply@blogger.com